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5 Reasons Why Smart People Stay In so much Toxic Relationships..

5 Reasons Why Smart People Stay In so much  Toxic Relationships..

Why a smart person stays in an abusive relationship is a mystery for many, including you, the victim. You are labeled and blamed as needy, co-dependent, or an enabler. When two people are under the influence of love, they are tethered together, interconnected, and interdependent. Everything each does serves the relationship. The two become one — a team, depending and relying on each other. You have each other’s back. Your joy is magnified. With abuse, however, that tethered relationship becomes self-serving and therefore, loses its integrity.
1. They use destructive conditioning. A narcissist conditions you to become afraid of doing the very things that once made your life fulfilling as they now bring you frustration or anxiety. In time, you learn to associate your strengths, talents, and happy memories with abuse and disrespect. Ineffective in being able to influence your partner makes you feel inadequate. The conditio…

5 Ways To Balance Your Love Life And Career Without harmself

5 Ways To Balance Your Love Life And Career Without  harmself..
Career is not easy to everything.. No one ever said managing a career was easy. Throw a relationship into the mix and you've got career suicide, right? Wrong. While we'd all love to forgo a day of work in exchange for a fun-filled day with our significant other, having a strong relationship doesn't mean your occupational goals have to suffer. It's quite the opposite!

Extensive research on the subject of relationships and careers shows that people in successful relationships not only make more money, they're healthier, live longer, and get more promotions than singles do. So how can you juggle your relationship and your career?
We've got the five tips that'll keep your work and love life harmonious—and YOU sane!
1. Prioritize

It's a fact: Sometimes life forces us to put more weight on one thing than another. Often, this priority shift means forgoing one goal in exchange for another; for exa…

How can you now Your Coworker Is a Psychopath

How can you now  Your Coworker Is a Psychopath..

Serial killers are often depicted in film and television as deranged psychopaths. This contributes to the general confusion that exists between psychopaths and serial killers. The truth is psychopaths, sociopaths, and antisocial personalities, compared to serial killers, are relatively common. Serial killers are extremely rare because they usually exhibit a potent combination of multiple mental illness diagnostic categories including antisocial personality, narcissism, and different forms of paraphilia (voyeurism, frotteurism, exhibitionism, sadism, masochism, etc.). Statistically speaking, a psychopath is almost always never a serial killer; patterned homicide is just that rare.
How many psychopaths are reading this article along with you?
Hard to tell. But if thousands of people read this, research suggests there are bound to be some. About 15 percent of male prisoners meet psychopathic diagnostic criteria. This statistic illustrates…

Finding a Partner & Your Love

Finding a Partner & Your  Love, ....

When it comes to seeking a partner, many of us have a ‘type’: an ideal set of characteristics we would like to find in Mr. or Mrs. Right.
Of course, we are all free to desire whatever we want in a partner, but when it comes to starting a real relationship, most of us are constrained. When you choose a partner, that partner must also choose you. And there is no guarantee that the type of person who is attracted to you is also your ideal type.
For a long time, many scientists who studied partner-choice assumed that preferences are reflected in choice. That is, we end up with partners who possess characteristics we find attractive. But other scientists have proposed that we are so constrained in our choices it is likely that preferences have little to do with choice.
A few years ago, I and my former colleagues at Penn State University brought together a group of couples to test which of these schools of thought was true. We found that, yes, men a…

5 Tips for your Emotions in Text messages

5 Tips for your  Emotions in Text messages.👸 It’s easy when people say they are angry or sad or excited, or if they tack an emoji to the end of a text. But when they don’t? Given that even face-to-face communication can be confusing, it should not surprise us that truncated, dashed-off text messages can result in disastrous misunderstandings.
In the age of technology, we not only need to decode in-person interactions, we also need to decode textual transmissions. How do we know what a person is feeling when we can't see their faces or body language? Here are six tips to help you better decode emotions in text messages, or at least prevent yourself from jumping to conclusions based on scant evidence.
1. Assume good intentions
In general, text messages are short. We have very little information to work with. A smiley face or series of exclamation points can help assure us that the text is meant to express positive emotion, but texts do not always include these extra emotion indica…

How should I control my anger..

How should I control my anger..

 Anger is never without a reason, but seldom a good one. During rage attacks those parts of the brain that are central to feeling and expressing anger, such as the amygdala and the hypothalamus, commandeer the rest of the brain. In this wholesale takeover, the cerebral cortex is overwhelmed and restraint and reasoning are impossible. In most situations this type of unrestrained anger destroys much more than it accomplishes. Do you fume when someone cuts you off in traffic? Does your blood pressure rocket when your child refuses to cooperate? Anger is a normal and even healthy emotion  but it's important to deal with it in a positive way. Uncontrolled anger can take a toll on both your health and your relationships.
Ready to get your anger under control? Start by considering these 10 anger management tips.

1. Think before you speak
In the heat of the moment, it's easy to say something you'll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your th…

Want to Make a Good Impression?in your life Don't Do These 4 Things

Want to Make a Good Impression? in your life   Don't Do These 4 Things.....

Making a good impression on others is vital to our social lives. Imagine being in a job interview or on a date; how you come off to another person could spell success or failure in these situations. To be well-received, one must convey qualities such as warmth, trustworthiness, and competence. But sometimes we miss the mark. Research on what’s known as impression management is extensive and maintains that people are quite skilled at presenting themselves to others in a positive light. When they don’t, it is believed that it is due to resource depletion. (Essentially, not having the mental energy to properly navigate social situations.)
Self‐presentation involves two steps. First, one must choose the image they wish to convey to others. Second, one must strategically present that image. It is this second step which researchers say can tax mental resources. Making a positive impression takes self-regulatio…

9 Best Ways to Improve Your Relationship gols

9 Best Ways to Improve Your Relationship gols...

It’s not just about diet and fitness goals. New Year's Day also brings an opportunity to revisit the health and happiness of your romantic relationship. Is your relationship thriving? Could it be stronger or more satisfying? What can you do to make things better? Any goal takes effort, so it’s time to outline what you’ll do to make your relationship the best it can be. As you think about yo
priorities, consider the ideas below—and remember to focus on what you can do yourself, or what you and your partner can do together. Your goal cannot be to change aspects of your partner; focus instead on changing your own contribution to the relationship, your reactions, and your responses.
Stop arguing over money. Do you and your partner butt heads when it comes to your finances? Resolve to take a new approach. Research on married couples shows that financial disagreements can predict divorce. It’s not how well-off people are that matters; it…

How can you improve your attitude?

How can you improve your attitude? With that in mind, here's how to ensure your attitude stays upbeat: Always act with a purpose. ... Stretch yourself past your limits every day. ... Take action without expecting results. ... Use setbacks to improve your skills. ... Seek out those who share your positive attitude. ... Don't take yourself so seriously.

A negative outlook on life can have serious consequences to your health, your relationships, and your feelings of satisfaction in life. Changing your attitude can be achieved through mindful, conscious thought and attention. Generating a positive attitude, practicing gratitude, and selectively forming new habits that promote positivity is a life-long process that can result in a changed attitude.
1.Get rid of negativity in your life.  If there are people, activities, or situations in your life that continually feel stressful, you may need to let them go. A change in attitude depends on living a new kind of life. This might mean qu…

How to Develop a Personal Development

What is Personal Development?

Personal development is a lifelong process. It is a way for people to assess their skills and qualities, consider their aims in life and set goals in order to realise and maximise their potential. This page helps you to identify the skills you need to set life goals which can enhance your employability prospects, raise your confidence, and lead to a more fulfilling, higher quality life. Plan to make relevant, positive and effective life choices and decisions for your future to enable personal empowerment. Although early life development and early formative experiences within the family, at school, etc. can help to shape us as adults, personal development should not stop later in life. This page contains information and advice that is designed to help you to think about your personal development and ways in which you can work towards goals and your full potential. Why is Personal Development Important? There are many ideas surrounding personal development,…